Category Archives: BDSM for Couples

Darling, WHY do you want to ‘hurt’ me?

I was asked a very interesting question today, by a gentleman who is a dominant, with a yet-to-be submissive partner, and wants to introduce his kink to her (in this case some good old whipping) and asked me to share my thoughts on getting her to comply. I had to think about this for a while, and wasn’t quite sure how I would have approached this, but then something that I had mentioned in my earlier article came to mind..

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Sir says | From ‘vanilla’ to ‘Dom’: how I started with BDSM

When I first ventured into the world of BDSM at the request of my partner, I was hesitant and slightly appalled at the thought of granting her request for a whipping, that would leave marks..! I had never ‘beaten’ a woman before, my mind racing.. wondering what my parents would think of this if they knew.. “OK..man up, man.. give the lady what she wants!” The first time she showed me her bare bottom, and encouraged me to whip her, I was careful not to hit too hard, but it wasn’t long before she urged me to strike her more vigorously, and I wasn’t so sure, but..

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6 Savvy Tips to Get the BDSM Gear YOU Want

Before diving straight into the actual products that should be in your BDSM kit (next article), I’d like to share some valuable tips with you, which will make your whole kinky online shopping experience much more fun, and help you to save money. And when I say ‘save money’, I’m not talking about a lousy $5 off. More about that later… But for now, let’s get into the right way to shop for your gear.

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Books for the New Kinkster

With a deluge of digital information, some of us have forgotten about one of the most rewarding ways to educate ourselves on BDSM. Reading a book on the subject can truly transform your outlook on kink, and give you the ‘in your hand’ information and confidence to really get things started. Some books are better than others, so I compiled a list of the ones that will give you the best value for your money, and best ideas to move forward.

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Aftercare, Through a Submissive’s Eyes

Often, I visit other BDSM related Facebook pages, to research or to answer people’s questions. Six days ago, I came across this touching piece (it’s original title ‘His Aftercare, His Love’) by The Loving Dom you’re about to read. He managed to capture the sensations a submissive goes through during aftercare so well, it took my breath away.

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