I was checking my mail today, a post by Michelle Fegatofi had arrived in my inbox. Her articles are always very interesting, covering topics like body image, BDSM attributes and symbolism, so I couldn’t wait to read it. She managed to inspire me to try new things out, and I hope she’ll do the same for you. If you love this article as much as I do, you should have a look at the book she recently published: BDSM Basics for Beginners.
S&M Toys on a Budget
When browsing BDSM pictures or adult toy shops, some of the costs are very high. Since the downturn in the world economy, many families don’t have the extra money to buy floggers, vibrators, fancy paddles, or bondage equipment. Below are a couple of things most people have just around the house or that can be bought for cheap that can be used as improvised play equipment.
Some of the most basic items that you can find for a BDSM toy bag include many things you can find at your local dollar store. Some of the things I recommend are clothes pins, clothes line and/or rope, scarves, rubber bands, bag clips, hair brushes, plastic rods (from mini blinds or shower rods), mixing spoons/spatulas (both wooden and plastic), candles (paraffin is best for beginners but regular candles can do in a pinch), hangers (both plastic and wire), pantyhose, paper, and pencils.
Hand, wrist, or ankle restraints can easily be done with cords, ribbons, tape measures, belts, soft ropes, pantyhose, ties, bandanas or scarves. You can use them to tie hands or feet together or use one end to tie a hand or foot to the corner of a bed. Always make sure that there is no tingling in fingers or toes and that the one restrained is comfortable. You do not want to cut off circulation with a too tight knot. Keep a very sharp pair of scissors handy in case you have to do a emergency cut!
Gags and blindfolds
Ties and scarves can be used to blindfold or gag a submissive. They should be of a soft material so that they don’t chafe. if you are more improvised ball gags, you can buy a small or medium plastic ball from the dollar store, drill a hole thru it and attach a scarf or rope to secure it around the submissives head.
We have all seen the beautiful and in some cases, very creative nipple clamps that are available on the market today. But, if you are in a pinch, or don’t have or want to spend the money, you can improvise and make your own.Clothes pins are great for nipple and clit clamps/torture. Chip clips can be used for nipples but are great to clamp the entire vagina lips together. Just like regular clamps, be careful with the amount of time you leave them attached. The longer you leave them, the more it will hurt when they are taken off.
Now, there are a veritable unlimited number of items you can use that you have already, or can buy for cheap, to deliver that spanking. Here is what I can think of that just the average household would have: wooden or plastic spoons or spatulas, belts, flip flops, thin to medium sized tree branches, acrylic or thin wooden cutting boards with handles, and hair brushes.
A Rubber Band Flogger is an easy project that can be done fairly quickly. It’s a great toy for light flogging or for flogging sensitive areas, like genitals or nipples. All you need are some rubber bands, a needle and thread, an unsharpened pencil or dowel rod, and some tape (I like duct tape or electrician’s tape). Tip: If you want a flogger to throw with more force, use a longer dowel rod. Cut the rubber bands in half, match up the ends, and run the needle and thread through. Once you have a chain of rubber bands long enough to wrap around the end of your pencil or dowel rod, tie them on with the ends of the thread. To make this secure, wrap the end of your pencil or dowel rod with tape, and voila — happy flogging.
An Inner-tube Flogger is a slightly more advanced project for more serious back and ass flogging. Get yourself a bike tire inner tube (unused, preferably) and a suitable length of PVC pipe for the handle. You can dress this flogger up however you want once you make it. Slide the inner tube through the PVC pipe to about halfway and then fold the inner tube back over the outside of the PVC pipe. Carefully cut the hanging end of the inner tube with a sharp knife or scissors into strips of about 1/2″ to 1″ wide. This part is optional, if you want to hang your flogger on the wall. Get your drill and carefully drill two holes at the hand-end of the PVC pipe. Insert your grommets or your D-ring.
Most people believe that in order to “do BDSM correctly” that they need to focus on having the latest and greatest implements and instrumentation. BDSM is more about creativity and freedom from doing and being the expected. Never be afraid to let your imagination run wild. Hallmark sign of a serious player: they can find a way to use anything in a room in a kinky way.
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P.P.S. If you’ve enjoyed this article, I recommend you have a look at the follow-up: ‘7 more tips for S&M toys on a budget‘.