Category Archives: Sir says

Darling, WHY do you want to ‘hurt’ me?

I was asked a very interesting question today, by a gentleman who is a dominant, with a yet-to-be submissive partner, and wants to introduce his kink to her (in this case some good old whipping) and asked me to share my thoughts on getting her to comply. I had to think about this for a while, and wasn’t quite sure how I would have approached this, but then something that I had mentioned in my earlier article came to mind..

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Sir says | From ‘vanilla’ to ‘Dom’: how I started with BDSM

When I first ventured into the world of BDSM at the request of my partner, I was hesitant and slightly appalled at the thought of granting her request for a whipping, that would leave marks..! I had never ‘beaten’ a woman before, my mind racing.. wondering what my parents would think of this if they knew.. “OK..man up, man.. give the lady what she wants!” The first time she showed me her bare bottom, and encouraged me to whip her, I was careful not to hit too hard, but it wasn’t long before she urged me to strike her more vigorously, and I wasn’t so sure, but..

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