Category Archives: Sir says

Darling, WHY do you want to ‘hurt’ me?

I was asked a very interesting question today, by a gentleman who is a dominant, with a yet-to-be submissive partner, and wants to introduce his kink to her (in this case some good old whipping) and asked me to share my thoughts on getting her to comply. I had to think about this for a while, and wasn’t quite sure how I would have approached this, but then something that I had mentioned in my earlier article came to mind..

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Sir says | From ‘vanilla’ to ‘Dom’: how I started with BDSM

When I first ventured into the world of BDSM at the request of my partner, I was hesitant and slightly appalled at the thought of granting her request for a whipping, that would leave marks..! I had never ‘beaten’ a woman before, my mind racing.. wondering what my parents would think of this if they knew.. “ up, man.. give the lady what she wants!” The first time she showed me her bare bottom, and encouraged me to whip her, I was careful not to hit too hard, but it wasn’t long before she urged me to strike her more vigorously, and I wasn’t so sure, but..

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