With a deluge of digital information, some of us have forgotten about one of the most rewarding ways to educate ourselves on BDSM. Reading a book on the subject can truly transform your outlook on kink, and give you the ‘in your hand’ information and confidence to really get things started. Some books are better than others, so I compiled a list of the ones that will give you the best value for your money, and best ideas to move forward.
Are you into kink, and enjoy being creative? Chances are you’ve already Googled for BDSM DIY’s, or for tips to experience different aspects of S&M without having to empty your wallet. According to my statistics, people already visit this blog for inspiration on these subjects. Plus, the last article in this category, ‘S&M Toys on a Budget‘, was well-received, so why not provide some additional information about a subject I know you already love? Enough said. Enjoy these seven tips to spice up the time you spend in the bedroom (or wherever you might enjoy to play).
Often, I visit other BDSM related Facebook pages, to research or to answer people’s questions. Six days ago, I came across this touching piece (it’s original title ‘His Aftercare, His Love’) by The Loving Dom you’re about to read. He managed to capture the sensations a submissive goes through during aftercare so well, it took my breath away.
I was scrolling through my Tumblr feed, when I came across a post with the title ‘for new dominants’ by Daddy’s Whorecrux. Throughout the years, I’ve noticed there are many dominants out there, who are very eager to make someone their submissive, without having educated themselves first, so I thought it would be a good idea to share these tips with you. Please note this list is inspired by, but not a literal copy of, the post by the aforementioned blogger.
It came to my attention that quite a few fans and followers would love to know about how they could take care of their submissive, after their BDSM play. Aftercare, an extremely important part of BDSM, is sadly overlooked by most couples. Clarisse Thorn wrote: “Being together with an S&M partner during aftercare can be used to free people, to make them feel amazing and establish extraordinary intimacy.”